I am currently reading the book Lovetorn by Kavita Daswani. Shalini, the main character, is from India and just recently moved to L.A. Like most Indian children, Shalini has an arranged marriage, and has been forced into "love". She has been engaged since she was three-years-old with a boy named Vikram that's about four years older than her. They have gone out on dates, e-mailed each other, talked on the phone like a regular couple and think they feel love for each other. Shalini doesn't figure out that she has been living a false relationship until she meets Toby.
Shalini has an arranged marriage, and has been forced into "love". I put love in between quotation marks because the kind of love she thinks she has found is one that she has been taught to feel since she was three-years-old. It's not the true feeling of love that you feel when you first see that someone. The butterflies in your stomach. The feeling of your lungs suffocating for air. And your heart beating so loud, it's about to break through your skin. All of this is the true feeling and meaning of love. And I might be wrong because all of my information is based off of my parent's relationship, television shows, movies, etc. I might not be a hundred percent sure but I'm confident that I'm close.
I think that arranged marriage is a crime and it should be illegal. The family of the two "lovers" should go to jail and the "lovers" too, for pretending to feel something they don't to please their families and fulfill their traditions. Love isn't a feeling that you learn to do, it's a feeling that comes naturally from the soul. I predict that Shalini goes through these feelings and questions in the book. She's going to ask herself the purpose of these marriages, the meaning of love, and something about herself along the way. I also predict she's probably going to put her parents through a nightmare when they find out about . From the minute that I read the blurb on this book I knew that I needed to read it. The fact that it was about how an Indian girl with an arranged marriage finds true love told me to check it out. I still haven't finished the book but I have a feeling that it will be great.
I totally agree with you. I feel that love is not something you can learn its something that you find. That is why i respect those creepy, weird but cool people who are all "alone" walking around the park with a dog on a leash and in their late 60's because they knew they shouldn't just marry some random person in Las Vegas if they don't love them. Sorry random but still if you don't find love than that is that because in the end you can't force someone to love you. If that person doesn't love you than he doesn't love you. You could possibly convince them if your nagging them all the the time but then again... nahhh. But seriously though back on topic. Arranged marriages are wrong like 4 realszzz jk they are unfair and shouldn't be permitted. Still that would never happen because Bill of Rights and people's freedom of being able to express their religion and speech... now I'm getting boring and nerdy but still. We can't do anything about arranged marriages just try to make the "lovers" realize they can't force each other to love one another. In conclusion (ooh essay words!) i feel that i am in fact agreeing with you on this topic 100% :) Yayyyyyyy! <3
ReplyDeleteYess I Totally Agree <3
ReplyDeleteI really liked the way you described love. It really shows how you believe love feels like. I also like how you put your own opinion about arranged marriages. Good job!!!! <3
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